Evd\u0259 h\u0259r g\u00fcn yem\u0259k bi\u015firilir, s\u00fcfr\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131r, qablar yuyulur, s\u0259h\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 n\u0259s\u0259 haz\u0131rlan\u0131r. Bunlar evin sakit axar\u0131 v\u0259 v\u0259rdi\u015fi oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn he\u00e7 biri bar\u0259d\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lm\u0131r. Ancaq bir g\u00fcn x\u00f6r\u0259yin duzu bir az \u00e7ox olanda s\u00fcfr\u0259 ba\u015f\u0131nda deyil\u0259n ilk s\u00f6z el\u0259 bu olur: \u201cN\u0259 yaman duzludur?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130ll\u0259r boyu s\u00fcfr\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n y\u00fczl\u0259rl\u0259 dadl\u0131 x\u00f6r\u0259k bir c\u00fcml\u0259y\u0259 bel\u0259 layiq g\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fcr, amma bir d\u0259f\u0259 duzu qa\u00e7an yem\u0259k o d\u0259qiq\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259tin m\u00f6vzusuna \u00e7evrilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bunu pis niyy\u0259tl\u0259 etmirik. Sad\u0259c\u0259 bel\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259\u015fmi\u015fik: qaydas\u0131nda ged\u0259n \u015fey arxa plana ke\u00e7ir, pozulansa, d\u0259rhal \u00f6n\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. S\u0259hv h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259rir; d\u00fczg\u00fcn olan\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcns\u0259 diqq\u0259t laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Eyni \u015fey i\u015f h\u0259yat\u0131nda da ba\u015f verir. Komanda \u00fc\u00e7 h\u0259ft\u0259 bir t\u0259klif \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259yir. R\u0259q\u0259ml\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 yoxlan\u0131l\u0131r, t\u0259qdimat gec\u0259yar\u0131s\u0131na q\u0259d\u0259r cilalan\u0131r, h\u0259r k\u0259s \u00f6z t\u00f6hf\u0259sini verir. Amma m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259ri sonda ba\u015fqa \u015firk\u0259ti se\u00e7ir. N\u00f6vb\u0259ti toplant\u0131da m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 bir c\u00fcml\u0259 il\u0259 yekunla\u015f\u0131r: \u201cT\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, al\u0131nmad\u0131\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00dc\u00e7 h\u0259ft\u0259lik z\u0259hm\u0259t, gec\u0259yar\u0131s\u0131na q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7\u0259kil\u0259n i\u015f, bir-birin\u0259 veril\u0259n d\u0259st\u0259k – ham\u0131s\u0131 bir anda n\u0259tic\u0259nin k\u00f6lg\u0259sind\u0259 itir. Gerid\u0259 yaln\u0131z \u201cal\u0131nmad\u0131\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc qal\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u0259n t\u0259qdiri el\u0259 bu g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259n hiss\u0259ni g\u00f6r\u0259 bilm\u0259k kimi ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u0259m. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259r n\u0259tic\u0259nin arxas\u0131nda bir \u0259m\u0259k dayan\u0131r. B\u0259z\u0259n n\u0259tic\u0259 ist\u0259diyimiz kimi \u00e7\u0131xm\u0131r – amma o \u0259m\u0259k yen\u0259 d\u0259 diqq\u0259t\u0259, d\u0259y\u0259r verilm\u0259y\u0259 layiqdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cT\u0259qdir\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc bizd\u0259 \u00e7ox vaxt t\u0259rif, m\u00fckafat, xo\u015f s\u00f6z m\u0259nas\u0131nda i\u015fl\u0259nir. Halbuki onun k\u00f6k\u00fcnd\u0259 daha sad\u0259, bir o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tin bir \u015fey var: g\u00f6rm\u0259k. Qar\u015f\u0131ndak\u0131 insan\u0131n n\u0259 etdiyini, nec\u0259 etdiyini, n\u0259yin xatirin\u0259 etdiyini f\u0259rq etm\u0259k v\u0259 g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc ona hiss etdirm\u0259k.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Klassik \u015e\u0259rq d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si g\u00f6zl\u0259 baxmaqla k\u00f6n\u00fcl g\u00f6z\u00fc il\u0259 g\u00f6rm\u0259yi ay\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131: birin\u0259 b\u0259s\u0259r, o birin\u0259 b\u0259sir\u0259t deyilirdi. N\u0259tic\u0259ni adi g\u00f6zl\u0259 d\u0259 g\u00f6rm\u0259k olar; o n\u0259tic\u0259y\u0259 aparan yolu g\u00f6rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcns\u0259 b\u0259sir\u0259t g\u0259r\u0259kdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsanlar\u0131 \u00e7ox vaxt m\u00fckafats\u0131z qalmaq yox, g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259m\u0259k yorur. M\u0259n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, t\u0259qdir insan\u0131n \u0259sas sosial ehtiyaclar\u0131ndan biridir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fc i\u015fin, g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyi s\u0259yin v\u0259 verdiyi t\u00f6hf\u0259nin g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc bilm\u0259k ist\u0259yir. Bu ehtiyac qar\u015f\u0131land\u0131qda insanlar aras\u0131ndak\u0131 m\u0259saf\u0259 azal\u0131r, yax\u0131nla\u015fmaq asanla\u015f\u0131r. B\u0259z\u0259n bir insan\u0131n \u0259m\u0259yini g\u00f6rm\u0259k v\u0259 bunu ona hiss etdirm\u0259k uzun-uzad\u0131 izahlardan daha g\u00fccl\u00fc \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t yarad\u0131r. Bu m\u0259nada t\u0259qdir sad\u0259c\u0259 xo\u015f s\u00f6z deyil; insanlar aras\u0131nda etimad v\u0259 yax\u0131nl\u0131q yaradan bir \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t k\u00f6rp\u00fcs\u00fcn\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Biz ad\u0259t\u0259n n\u0259tic\u0259y\u0259 bax\u0131r\u0131q. Plan tutdusa, yax\u015f\u0131san; tutmad\u0131sa, pis. N\u0259tic\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259n v\u0259 \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcl\u0259ndir, onun haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fmaq asand\u0131r. S\u0259y is\u0259 \u00e7ox vaxt g\u00f6z\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir u\u015faq aylarla imtahana haz\u0131rla\u015f\u0131r, telefonu k\u0259nara qoyub gec\u0259sini g\u00fcnd\u00fcz\u00fcn\u0259 qat\u0131r. Amma n\u0259tic\u0259 ist\u0259diyi kimi al\u0131nm\u0131r, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 bal g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr. Elan olunan kimi ondan soru\u015furlar: \u201cNe\u00e7\u0259 ald\u0131n?\u201d Cavabdan sonra s\u00f6hb\u0259t ba\u011flan\u0131r. Onun \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kdiyi o bir ay\u0131 he\u00e7 kim xat\u0131rlam\u0131r. U\u015faq is\u0259 \u00f6z n\u0259tic\u0259sini \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r: dem\u0259k, vacib olan bal imi\u015f, c\u0259hd yox.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
D\u00fczg\u00fcn olan n\u0259dir? H\u0259min u\u015fa\u011fa da, o komandaya da n\u0259yin al\u0131nmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 izah etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Bundan qa\u00e7maq olmaz, x\u00fcsus\u0259n i\u015f h\u0259yat\u0131nda – n\u0259tic\u0259 m\u00fctl\u0259q \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclm\u0259li, s\u0259hv a\u00e7\u0131q dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. Amma bu iki c\u00fcml\u0259 bir-birin\u0259 zidd deyil:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cN\u0259tic\u0259 ist\u0259diyimiz kimi olmad\u0131\u201d.
\u201cAmma g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyin s\u0259yi g\u00f6rd\u00fcm\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Biz \u00e7ox vaxt el\u0259 bilirik ki, birini des\u0259k, o birini dem\u0259y\u0259 haqq\u0131m\u0131z qalm\u0131r. \u018fm\u0259yi t\u0259qdir ets\u0259k, t\u0259nqid yum\u015falar, ciddilik it\u0259r. T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259md\u0259 is\u0259 \u00e7ox zaman bunun \u0259ksini g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f\u0259m: s\u0259yinin g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc bil\u0259n insan t\u0259nqidi daha rahat q\u0259bul edir. N\u0259yin al\u0131nmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bar\u0259d\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259t ona h\u00fccum kimi yox, birg\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259k kimi g\u0259lir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
R\u0259hb\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bunu g\u00f6rm\u0259k x\u00fcsusil\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tindir. \u00c7\u00fcnki onun qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda \u00e7ox vaxt n\u0259tic\u0259 dayan\u0131r: r\u0259q\u0259ml\u0259r, g\u00f6st\u0259ricil\u0259r, \u0259ld\u0259 olunan v\u0259 ya olunmayan h\u0259d\u0259fl\u0259r. O n\u0259tic\u0259nin arxas\u0131nda \u00fc\u00e7 h\u0259ft\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan, d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 yoxlayan, u\u011fursuzluqdan sonra yenid\u0259n c\u0259hd ed\u0259n insan\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259k asan deyil. Ona sad\u0259c\u0259 \u201cal\u0131nmad\u0131\u201d dem\u0259k do\u011frudur, amma yar\u0131m\u00e7\u0131qd\u0131r. Bunu bel\u0259 d\u0259 dem\u0259k olar: \u201cBu d\u0259f\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259diyimiz kimi olmad\u0131. G\u0259l s\u0259b\u0259bin\u0259 birlikd\u0259 baxaq. Amma bu n\u0259tic\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7atmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyin s\u0259yi g\u00f6rd\u00fcm\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u0259tic\u0259 ist\u0259diyimiz kimi olmaya bil\u0259r. Amma bu, g\u00f6st\u0259ril\u0259n s\u0259yi d\u0259y\u0259rsiz etmir. Bu, t\u0259s\u0259lli deyil, sad\u0259c\u0259 bir h\u0259qiq\u0259tdir. \u0130nsan h\u0259r ciddi c\u0259hdd\u0259n, h\u0259tta n\u0259tic\u0259 al\u0131nmad\u0131qda bel\u0259, n\u0259s\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259nir: \u00f6z imkanlar\u0131 haqq\u0131nda bir az daha \u00e7ox bilir, n\u0259yin i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259diyini g\u00f6r\u00fcr, n\u00f6vb\u0259ti d\u0259f\u0259 n\u0259yi ba\u015fqa c\u00fcr ed\u0259c\u0259yini anlay\u0131r. Bunlar\u0131n he\u00e7 biri hesabatda g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r. Amma insan onlar\u0131 \u00f6z x\u0259zin\u0259sin\u0259 at\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir d\u0259f\u0259 edil\u0259n yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 daha asan g\u00f6r\u00fcr v\u0259 ona t\u0259\u015f\u0259kk\u00fcr edirik. H\u0259r g\u00fcn edil\u0259n yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011fa is\u0259 zamanla \u00f6yr\u0259\u015firik. \u018fvv\u0259l ad\u0259t\u0259 \u00e7evrilir, sonra v\u0259zif\u0259 kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr, bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t ke\u00e7\u0259nd\u0259n sonra is\u0259 – q\u0259rib\u0259dir – borc hesab olunur. Bel\u0259likl\u0259, insan\u0131n h\u0259r g\u00fcn etdiyi \u015fey g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259z olur. Ta ki bir g\u00fcn etm\u0259sin. Onda d\u0259rhal soru\u015furuq: \u201cB\u0259s niy\u0259 etm\u0259din?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evd\u0259 ham\u0131ya car \u00e7\u0259kilm\u0259d\u0259n g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u0259n i\u015fl\u0259r, ail\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7\u0259kil\u0259n z\u0259hm\u0259t, ya\u015fl\u0131 valideyn\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259ril\u0259n qay\u011f\u0131… Bunlar h\u0259yat\u0131n adi axar\u0131na qar\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Biz onlar\u0131 yaln\u0131z bir g\u00fcn edilm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 hiss edirik. Onda anlay\u0131r\u0131q ki, adi sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015feyl\u0259rin arxas\u0131nda \u0259slind\u0259 n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r z\u0259hm\u0259t var.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Naraz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 dil\u0259 g\u0259tirm\u0259k daha asand\u0131r: \u201cYen\u0259 gecikdin\u201d, \u201cyen\u0259 unutdun\u201d. Minn\u0259tdarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 is\u0259 \u00e7ox vaxt i\u00e7imizd\u0259 saxlay\u0131r\u0131q – sanki qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f telepatd\u0131r v\u0259 onsuz da bilm\u0259lidir ki, qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirdiyimiz n\u0259l\u0259rs\u0259 var.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu, ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n u\u011furlar\u0131na m\u00fcnasib\u0259timizd\u0259 d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259rir. Bir insan n\u0259y\u0259s\u0259 nail olanda onun z\u0259hm\u0259tini g\u00f6rm\u0259k \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 tez-tez ba\u015fqa izahlar tap\u0131r\u0131q: \u201cOnsuz da bacar\u0131rd\u0131\u201d, \u201carxas\u0131 var\u201d, \u201c\u015fans\u0131 g\u0259tirdi\u201d. Ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n u\u011furunun arxas\u0131ndak\u0131 z\u0259hm\u0259ti oldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul etm\u0259k b\u0259z\u0259n biz\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc v\u0259 dayand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yeri xat\u0131rlad\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 h\u0259min u\u011furu bir q\u0259d\u0259r ki\u00e7iltm\u0259k daha rahat g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u0259lk\u0259 bunun bir s\u0259b\u0259bi d\u0259 insan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc daim ba\u015fqalar\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fcqayis\u0259 etm\u0259sidir. Alfred Adler insan\u0131n i\u00e7ind\u0259ki natamaml\u0131q duy\u011fusundan yaz\u0131rd\u0131. \u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 olmayan\u0131 daha tez g\u00f6r\u00fcr. B\u0259lk\u0259 el\u0259 buna g\u00f6r\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmayan t\u0259r\u0259fini g\u00f6rm\u0259k onun g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyi s\u0259yi g\u00f6rm\u0259kd\u0259n daha asan g\u0259lir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7ox vaxt t\u0259qdiri t\u0259rifl\u0259 qar\u0131\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r\u0131q. T\u0259rif \u00fcmumidir, ad\u0259t\u0259n n\u0259tic\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259t\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259lir: \u201cS\u0259n istedadl\u0131san\u201d, \u201c\u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131 i\u015f g\u00f6rm\u00fcs\u0259n\u201d. T\u0259qdir is\u0259 konkret olan\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr: \u201c\u00c7\u0259tinlik \u00e7\u0131xanda imtina etm\u0259yib ba\u015fqa yol axtarma\u011f\u0131n diqq\u0259timi \u00e7\u0259kdi\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u0259rif qiym\u0259t verir. T\u0259qdir is\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcr v\u0259 m\u0259naland\u0131r\u0131r. B\u0259lk\u0259 f\u0259rq el\u0259 buradad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130stedada deyil\u0259n t\u0259rifin bir t\u0259l\u0259si d\u0259 var: n\u0259tic\u0259 al\u0131nmayanda insan \u00f6z istedad\u0131na \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. S\u0259y\u0259 is\u0259 yenid\u0259n qay\u0131tmaq, onu b\u00f6y\u00fctm\u0259k olar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ham\u0131ya eyni s\u00f6zl\u0259 deyil\u0259n t\u0259qdir d\u0259 tez k\u00f6hn\u0259lir. Toplant\u0131n\u0131n sonunda deyil\u0259n \u201cHam\u0131n\u0131z \u0259la i\u015fl\u0259diniz\u201d c\u00fcml\u0259si he\u00e7 kimin yad\u0131nda qalm\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnki orada he\u00e7 kim ayr\u0131ca g\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fcr. \u018fvv\u0259l xo\u015f s\u00f6z, sonra t\u0259nqid, sonra yen\u0259 xo\u015f s\u00f6z – bu sxemi d\u0259 insanlar tez tan\u0131y\u0131r; bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra ilk xo\u015f s\u00f6z\u00fc e\u015fid\u0259n kimi \u201camma\u201dn\u0131 g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. \u0130nsan n\u0259yin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 t\u0259qdir edildiyini bil\u0259nd\u0259, deyil\u0259n s\u00f6z\u00fcn s\u0259mimiyy\u0259tini d\u0259 hiss edir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7oxlu s\u0259b\u0259b tap\u0131r\u0131q: \u201cOnsuz da bilir\u201d, \u201cbu, onun i\u015fidir\u201d, \u201ct\u0259rifl\u0259s\u0259m, \u0259rk\u00f6y\u00fcnl\u0259\u015f\u0259r\u201d, \u201consuz da maa\u015f\u0131n\u0131 al\u0131r\u201d. Amma m\u0259n\u0259 \u0259n \u00e7ox tan\u0131\u015f g\u0259l\u0259n ba\u015fqa bir c\u00fcml\u0259dir: \u201cAl\u0131nsayd\u0131, dey\u0259rdim\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu c\u00fcml\u0259nin i\u00e7ind\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259n bir \u015f\u0259rt var: \u0259vv\u0259l n\u0259tic\u0259 olsun, sonra d\u0259y\u0259r ver\u0259k – sanki n\u0259tic\u0259 \u0259ld\u0259 edilm\u0259yibs\u0259, g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u0259n i\u015fl\u0259rin d\u0259 he\u00e7 bir m\u0259nas\u0131 yoxdur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Halbuki insan yaln\u0131z u\u011fura \u00e7atd\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcn d\u0259yi\u015fmir. O, haz\u0131rla\u015fark\u0259n, c\u0259hd ed\u0259rk\u0259n, s\u0259hv ed\u0259rk\u0259n, yenid\u0259n ba\u015flayark\u0259n d\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fir. B\u0259z\u0259n insan\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck inki\u015faf\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259nin g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fc yerd\u0259 yox, he\u00e7 kimin g\u00f6rm\u0259diyi o yolda ba\u015f verir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n \u0259m\u0259yini g\u00f6rm\u0259kd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131qsa, bir sual da qa\u00e7\u0131lmaz olur: b\u0259s \u00f6z \u0259m\u0259yimizi n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck? \u201cAl\u0131nsayd\u0131, dey\u0259rdim\u201d c\u00fcml\u0259sini \u00e7ox vaxt h\u0259r k\u0259sd\u0259n \u0259vv\u0259l \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 deyirik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u0259lim v\u0259 ya kou\u00e7inq sessiyalar\u0131nda b\u0259z\u0259n sad\u0259 bir sual verir\u0259m: \u201cSon bir ild\u0259 n\u0259yi yax\u015f\u0131 etmisiniz?\u201d \u00c7ox adam susur, bir az fikirl\u0259\u015fir, sonra s\u00f6hb\u0259t \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 bilm\u0259d\u0259n yen\u0259 s\u0259hvl\u0259r\u0259, yar\u0131m\u00e7\u0131q qalan i\u015fl\u0259r\u0259 s\u00fcr\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. N\u0259yin al\u0131nmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 inc\u0259liyin\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r dan\u0131\u015fan adam g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fc yax\u015f\u0131 i\u015fi bir-iki s\u00f6zl\u0259 \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcb ke\u00e7ir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsana ancaq \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmayan t\u0259r\u0259fini g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k onun natamaml\u0131q hissini daha da qabard\u0131r. \u0130nsan bu bax\u0131\u015f\u0131 ill\u0259rl\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131ndan e\u015fidir, sonda \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u0259min g\u00f6zl\u0259 baxma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u0259n\u0259 el\u0259 g\u0259lir ki, t\u0259qdir el\u0259 buradan ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u00d6z z\u0259hm\u0259tini he\u00e7 vaxt hesaba yazmayan adam ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n z\u0259hm\u0259tini d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tin g\u00f6r\u00fcr. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u0259 \u201cal\u0131nmad\u0131sa, dan\u0131\u015fma\u011fa d\u0259ym\u0259z\u201d dey\u0259n, eynini ba\u015fqas\u0131na da deyir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc t\u0259qdir etm\u0259k \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc t\u0259rifl\u0259m\u0259k deyil, s\u0259hv\u0259 b\u0259ra\u0259t qazand\u0131rmaq da deyil. Sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00f6z yoluna d\u00fcr\u00fcst baxmaqd\u0131r: \u201cBu d\u0259f\u0259 al\u0131nmad\u0131. Amma haz\u0131rla\u015fd\u0131m, c\u0259hd etdim, geri \u00e7\u0259kilm\u0259dim\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n \u0259m\u0259yini g\u00f6rm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131qca \u0259traf\u0131m\u0131zda \u0259vv\u0259ll\u0259r f\u0259rq etm\u0259diyimiz \u015feyl\u0259ri d\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. H\u0259mkar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n he\u00e7 kim\u0259 dem\u0259d\u0259n d\u00fcz\u0259ltdiyi ki\u00e7ik bir s\u0259hvi. Yor\u011fun olsa da \u201cNec\u0259s\u0259n?\u201d dey\u0259 soru\u015fan h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131. H\u0259r g\u00fcn t\u0259krarlanan, ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 art\u0131q g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259n says\u0131z-hesabs\u0131z ki\u00e7ik qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131. Bunlar \u0259slind\u0259 h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 orada idi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan n\u0259yi g\u00f6rm\u0259y\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259\u015firs\u0259, d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda da onu daha \u00e7ox g\u00f6rm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. B\u0259lk\u0259 t\u0259qdir etm\u0259k \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259 el\u0259 buna g\u00f6r\u0259 laz\u0131md\u0131r: h\u0259yatda yaln\u0131z \u00e7atmayan\u0131, al\u0131nmayan\u0131, s\u0259hvi deyil, olan\u0131 v\u0259 edil\u0259ni d\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 bilm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u0259lk\u0259 bu g\u00fcn h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131zda el\u0259 bir insan var ki, onun etdikl\u0259rini \u00e7oxdan adil\u0259\u015fdirmi\u015fik, h\u0259r g\u00fcn etdikl\u0259rini art\u0131q \u201consuz da bel\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r\u201d kimi q\u0259bul edirik. Halbuki o n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259rin arxas\u0131nda ill\u0259r, s\u0259br, yor\u011funluq, imtina v\u0259 s\u0259ssiz z\u0259hm\u0259t ola bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259qdir etm\u0259yin \u0259n az dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lan t\u0259r\u0259fi el\u0259 budur: t\u0259qdir yaln\u0131z qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 laz\u0131m deyil, onu ed\u0259n insana da laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki bir insan\u0131n \u0259m\u0259yini g\u00f6r\u0259 bilm\u0259k, yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 adil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259m\u0259k bizi \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131r, \u0259ksin\u0259, i\u00e7imizd\u0259ki insan\u0131 canl\u0131 saxlay\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
H\u0259yata yaln\u0131z \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmayanlar, s\u0259hvl\u0259r v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259r \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259n baxanda d\u00fcnyam\u0131z getdikc\u0259 s\u0259rtl\u0259\u015fir. H\u0259r \u015feyi \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcr, m\u00fcqayis\u0259 edir, qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndiririk. T\u0259qdir is\u0259 bu bax\u0131\u015f\u0131 bir anl\u0131q d\u0259yi\u015fir: qar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdak\u0131 insan\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259n \u0259vv\u0259l insan kimi g\u00f6rm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r\u0131q. B\u0259lk\u0259 buna g\u00f6r\u0259 t\u0259qdir etm\u0259k ba\u015fqas\u0131na veril\u0259n bir d\u0259y\u0259r olmaqla yana\u015f\u0131, insan\u0131n \u00f6z daxilind\u0259 qorudu\u011fu bir keyfiyy\u0259tdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u0259z\u0259n insan\u0131n ehtiyac\u0131 n\u0259 yeni bir m\u00fckafat, n\u0259 d\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck bir t\u0259rifdir. Sad\u0259c\u0259 birinin dayan\u0131b dem\u0259sidir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nM\u0259n g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. S\u0259nin bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r z\u0259hm\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kdiyini g\u00f6rd\u00fcm.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
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Evd\u0259 h\u0259r g\u00fcn yem\u0259k bi\u015firilir, s\u00fcfr\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131r, qablar yuyulur, s\u0259h\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 n\u0259s\u0259 haz\u0131rlan\u0131r. Bunlar evin sakit axar\u0131 v\u0259 v\u0259rdi\u015fi oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn he\u00e7 biri bar\u0259d\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lm\u0131r. Ancaq bir g\u00fcn x\u00f6r\u0259yin duzu bir az \u00e7ox olanda s\u00fcfr\u0259 ba\u015f\u0131nda deyil\u0259n ilk s\u00f6z el\u0259 bu olur: \u201cN\u0259 yaman duzludur?\u201d \u0130ll\u0259r boyu s\u00fcfr\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n y\u00fczl\u0259rl\u0259 dadl\u0131 x\u00f6r\u0259k bir c\u00fcml\u0259y\u0259 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[30],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-749","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emosional-zeka"],"views":13,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/749","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=749"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/749\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":764,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/749\/revisions\/764"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=749"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=749"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=749"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}