{"id":735,"date":"2026-05-07T20:15:04","date_gmt":"2026-05-07T16:15:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/?p=735"},"modified":"2026-09-13T20:17:38","modified_gmt":"2026-09-13T16:17:38","slug":"qoy-ozu-qalxsin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/qoy-ozu-qalxsin\/","title":{"rendered":"QOY \u00d6Z\u00dc QALXSIN"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Amerikal\u0131 m\u00fc\u011f\u0259nni v\u0259 b\u0259st\u0259kar Rey \u00c7arlz\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131ndan b\u0259hs ed\u0259n \u201cRey\u201d filmind\u0259 (2014) t\u0259sirli bir s\u0259hn\u0259 var; g\u00f6rm\u0259 qabiliyy\u0259tini itirmi\u015f ki\u00e7ik Rey y\u0131x\u0131l\u0131r v\u0259 a\u011flayaraq anas\u0131ndan k\u00f6m\u0259k isty\u0259yir. Anas\u0131 is\u0259 yerd\u0259 s\u00fcr\u00fcn\u0259n o\u011flunun k\u00f6m\u0259yin\u0259 g\u0259lmir v\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259yir ki, o, \u00f6z\u00fc aya\u011fa qalx\u0131b h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t etsin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anan\u0131n bu h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259ti ilk bax\u0131\u015fda biz\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259m\u0259tsiz g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259r. Ancaq, Reyin sonrak\u0131 h\u0259yat\u0131 bu \u201cm\u0259rh\u0259m\u0259tsizliyin\u201d hikm\u0259tini a\u00e7\u0131r; o, h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n sonuna q\u0259d\u0259r kor ya\u015fasa da, m\u0259hz \u00f6z g\u00fcc\u00fc v\u0259 \u0259m\u0259yi il\u0259 \u015f\u00f6hr\u0259tin zirv\u0259sin\u0259 d\u0131rman\u0131r v\u0259 g\u00f6z\u00fc g\u00f6r\u0259n bir \u00e7ox insandan daha u\u011furlu olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu s\u0259hn\u0259ni izl\u0259y\u0259rk\u0259n g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcn \u00f6n\u00fcn\u0259 sa\u011flam, \u0259li-aya\u011f\u0131 yerind\u0259, a\u011fl\u0131 da ba\u015f\u0131nda olan \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259r i\u015fin\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k ad\u0131 il\u0259 qar\u0131\u015fan v\u0259 bel\u0259likl\u0259 d\u0259, onlar\u0131n m\u00fcst\u0259qil v\u0259 g\u00fccl\u00fc yeti\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 mane olan valideynl\u0259r g\u0259ldi. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bu yersiz \u201ck\u00f6m\u0259kl\u0259r\u201d sa\u011flam u\u015faqlar\u0131 sonradan m\u0259n\u0259vi \u015fik\u0259st\u0259 \u00e7evririr. Bu g\u00fcn c\u0259miyy\u0259timiz c\u0259sar\u0259t ruhundan yoxsun, \u0259l\u0259baxan v\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n himay\u0259sin\u0259 m\u0259hkum, m\u0259\u011flubiyy\u0259ti v\u0259 z\u0259filiyi el\u0259 ba\u015fdaca q\u0259bul ed\u0259n, \u0259n ki\u00e7ik \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rd\u0259 dizini yer\u0259 qoyub a\u011flayan \u201c\u015fik\u0259stl\u0259rl\u0259\u201d doludursa, bunun s\u0259b\u0259bini ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259d\u0259n anlamayan b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rd\u0259 \u2013 valideynl\u0259rd\u0259, n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259-babalarda, xalalarda-bibil\u0259rd\u0259 axtarmal\u0131y\u0131q.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130ndi \u00e7oxlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, m\u0259n \u00e7ox korluq \u00e7\u0259kmi\u015f\u0259m, qoy \u00f6vlad\u0131m \u00e7\u0259tinlik g\u00f6rm\u0259sin. Ancaq, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00fccl\u0259ndir\u0259n \u015feyin m\u0259hz el\u0259 o \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rin oldu\u011funu anlam\u0131r v\u0259 asan, b\u0259z\u0259n d\u0259 t\u00fcfeyli h\u0259yat t\u0259rzi il\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n inki\u015fafa ged\u0259n yollar\u0131n\u0131 ba\u011flay\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bel\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r ki, u\u015faqlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fczg\u00fcn b\u00f6y\u00fctm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259 biz \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259liyik. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u0259r\u0259k s\u0259hvl\u0259rd\u0259n qorxmamal\u0131, s\u0259hv\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131lan qap\u0131lar\u0131 q\u0131f\u0131llamamal\u0131, \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck m\u00fc\u0259llimin el\u0259 bu s\u0259hvl\u0259r oldu\u011funu anlamal\u0131y\u0131q. Anlamal\u0131 v\u0259 q\u0259bul etm\u0259liyik ki, \u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131z s\u0259hv ed\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 onu b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u0259c\u0259k olan da bu s\u0259hvl\u0259rd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131lan d\u00fczg\u00fcn n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259rdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rin bizi \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xa bil\u0259c\u0259k daha b\u00f6y\u00fck \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r\u0259 haz\u0131rlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da art\u0131q anlamal\u0131 v\u0259 buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 o \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r\u0259 minn\u0259tdar olmal\u0131y\u0131q. \u00d6vladlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rd\u0259n uzaq tutmamal\u0131, tam t\u0259rsin\u0259 onunla m\u00fcbariz\u0259y\u0259 haz\u0131rlamal\u0131y\u0131q.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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U\u015faq y\u0131x\u0131la-y\u0131x\u0131la b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Az\u0259rbaycan atalar s\u00f6z\u00fc<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Bu yax\u0131nlarda bir parkda velosiped s\u00fcr\u0259n ki\u00e7ik bir o\u011flan\u0131n arxas\u0131nca qa\u00e7an n\u0259n\u0259sini g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Velosiped yolda h\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259 ili\u015f\u0259nd\u0259 n\u0259n\u0259 qa\u00e7araq yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131r, velosipedin y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc \u0259li il\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015firdi v\u0259 u\u015faq da yoluna davam edirdi. \u018fslind\u0259, u\u015faq \u00e7ox diriba\u015f idi v\u0259 hans\u0131sa k\u00f6m\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac duymadan da velosipedini s\u00fcr\u0259tl\u0259 s\u00fcr\u0259 bilirdi. Yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131b, bu n\u0259n\u0259d\u0259n h\u0259r x\u0131rda \u015feyd\u0259 u\u015fa\u011fa n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn k\u00f6m\u0259k etdiyini soru\u015fdum. Dedim ki, k\u00f6m\u0259k bir yer\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r olar v\u0259 bu q\u0259d\u0259r ifrat k\u00f6m\u0259k u\u015faqda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259inam hissinin formala\u015fmas\u0131na mane ola bil\u0259r. Sonda ya\u015fl\u0131 qad\u0131na t\u00f6vsiy\u0259m bu oldu \u2013 bu u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 g\u00fccl\u00fc ki\u015fi kimi yeti\u015fm\u0259sini ist\u0259yirs\u0259ns\u0259, qoy \u00f6z\u00fc s\u00fcrs\u00fcn, y\u0131x\u0131landa da \u00f6z\u00fc qalxs\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u018fziz b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r, u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131za \u0259lill\u0259r kimi yana\u015fmay\u0131n; \u0259ll\u0259r onlara \u00f6z ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259l\u0259ri, ayaqlar is\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259ri aya\u011fa qalxmalar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn verilib. Ehtiyac\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halda u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n ayaqqab\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131 ba\u011flayark\u0259n, \u0259linizd\u0259 yem\u0259k dolu qa\u015f\u0131q arxas\u0131nca qa\u00e7ark\u0259n, h\u0259r y\u0131x\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda y\u00fcy\u00fcr\u00fcb aya\u011fa qald\u0131rark\u0259n, ev tap\u015f\u0131r\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 onun yerin\u0259 ed\u0259rk\u0259n, dan\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 oldu\u011fu zaman onun yerin\u0259 dill\u0259n\u0259rk\u0259n iki d\u0259f\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q\u0259dim \u00e7inlil\u0259r deyirdi ki, insana bir bal\u0131q vers\u0259niz, onu bir g\u00fcn boyunca tox tutmu\u015f olars\u0131n\u0131z. Ancaq, ona bal\u0131q tutma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259ts\u0259niz, onu b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00f6mr\u00fc boyu b\u0259sl\u0259mi\u015f olars\u0131n\u0131z. G\u0259lin, u\u015faqlar\u0131na bal\u0131q tutma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259d\u0259nl\u0259rd\u0259n olaq.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

El\u00e7in \u018fzimli<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Amerikal\u0131 m\u00fc\u011f\u0259nni v\u0259 b\u0259st\u0259kar Rey \u00c7arlz\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131ndan b\u0259hs ed\u0259n \u201cRey\u201d filmind\u0259 (2014) t\u0259sirli bir s\u0259hn\u0259 var; g\u00f6rm\u0259 qabiliyy\u0259tini itirmi\u015f ki\u00e7ik Rey y\u0131x\u0131l\u0131r v\u0259 a\u011flayaraq anas\u0131ndan k\u00f6m\u0259k isty\u0259yir. Anas\u0131 is\u0259 yerd\u0259 s\u00fcr\u00fcn\u0259n o\u011flunun k\u00f6m\u0259yin\u0259 g\u0259lmir v\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259yir ki, o, \u00f6z\u00fc aya\u011fa qalx\u0131b h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t etsin. Anan\u0131n bu h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259ti ilk bax\u0131\u015fda biz\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259m\u0259tsiz g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259r. Ancaq, Reyin sonrak\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[30],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-735","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emosional-zeka"],"views":2,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/735","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=735"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/735\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":737,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/735\/revisions\/737"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=735"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=735"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=735"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}