Tez-tez qap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00f6y\u0259n duy\u011fular bizi incitm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyil, oyatmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u0259lirl\u0259r. \u201cNeqativ\u201d adland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z v\u0259 qa\u00e7ma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z h\u0259r bir hiss \u0259slind\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f m\u0259ktub kimidir; onu y\u0131rt\u0131b atmaq yox, verdiyi ismar\u0131\u015f\u0131 anlamaq d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rimiz\u0259 ayd\u0131nl\u0131q g\u0259tir\u0259r. Bu bax\u0131mdan tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f avstralyal\u0131 psixoterapevt Alfred Adler h\u0259mkar\u0131 Freydd\u0259n f\u0259rqli olaraq, insan \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tini yaln\u0131z ke\u00e7mi\u015f t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259rin v\u0259 bioloji instinktl\u0259rin m\u0259hsulu kimi deyil, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259y\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259lmi\u015f m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259r v\u0259 ir\u0259lil\u0259m\u0259k arzusu il\u0259 formala\u015fan aktiv bir dinamika kimi izah edirdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu bax\u0131\u015f buca\u011f\u0131nda Adlerin \u201cnatamaml\u0131q duy\u011fusu\u201d n\u0259z\u0259riyy\u0259si insan inki\u015faf\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c n\u00f6qt\u0259si kimi x\u00fcsusi yer tutur. \u0130nsan h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n erk\u0259n m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 h\u0259m fiziki, h\u0259m d\u0259 psixoloji bax\u0131mdan z\u0259ifliyini d\u0259rk edir v\u0259 bu \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcd\u0259rk onda yet\u0259rsiz qalmaq hissi yarad\u0131r. \u0130lk bax\u0131\u015fda xo\u015f olmayan bu duy\u011fu Adler \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn patologiya deyil, \u0259ksin\u0259, inki\u015faf\u0131 h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259tir\u0259n t\u0259bii v\u0259 qa\u00e7\u0131lmaz bir mexanizmdir. \u0130nsan m\u0259hz bu hiss vasit\u0259sil\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 n\u0259yins\u0259 \u00e7atmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlay\u0131r v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn daha bacar\u0131ql\u0131, daha g\u00fccl\u00fc, daha b\u00fct\u00f6v bir versiyas\u0131na do\u011fru y\u00fcks\u0259lm\u0259k ehtiyac\u0131 hiss edir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u0130nsan\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 formala\u015fd\u0131ran \u0259sas q\u00fcvv\u0259, ke\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259nl\u0259r deyil, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259y\u0259 dair arzular\u0131 v\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259ridir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Alfred Adler<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Bir anl\u0131\u011fa t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr ed\u0259k ki, natamaml\u0131q duy\u011fusu \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 m\u00f6vcud deyil. Bu halda insan ba\u015fqalar\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fcqayis\u0259d\u0259 harada dayand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259z, inki\u015faf etm\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac hiss etm\u0259z v\u0259 ir\u0259li getm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn daxili stimul tapmazd\u0131. Reall\u0131qda is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc dig\u0259rl\u0259ri il\u0259 m\u00fcqayis\u0259d\u0259 natamam v\u0259 ya yet\u0259rsiz hiss ed\u0259n f\u0259rdl\u0259r qar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131na bir m\u0259qs\u0259d qoyurlar. Bu m\u0259qs\u0259d \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc t\u0259sdiq etm\u0259k, \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmayan\u0131 tamamlamak v\u0259 daha ir\u0259li getm\u0259kdir. \u0130nki\u015fafa do\u011fru bizi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259tir\u0259n \u0259sas q\u00fcvv\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n biri m\u0259hz bu duy\u011fudur. Adler natamaml\u0131qdan inki\u015faf yoluna \u00e7\u0131xan bu psixi prosesi \u201ckompensasiya\u201d adland\u0131rm\u0131\u015fd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u0259hz bu n\u00f6qt\u0259d\u0259 Adler \u201c\u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck c\u0259hdi\u201d anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ir\u0259li s\u00fcr\u00fcr. Buradak\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck ba\u015fqalar\u0131ndan \u00fcst\u00fcn olmaq ist\u0259yi deyil. Bu, insan\u0131n \u00f6z m\u0259hdudiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini a\u015fmaq, potensial\u0131n\u0131 realla\u015fd\u0131rmaq v\u0259 h\u0259yat qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda daha dayan\u0131ql\u0131 bir m\u00f6vqe tutmaq c\u0259hdidir. Natamaml\u0131q duy\u011fusu h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tverici enerji rolunu oynay\u0131rsa, \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck c\u0259hdi bu enerjinin istiqam\u0259t ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 inki\u015faf h\u0259d\u0259fidir. Sa\u011flam psixoloji inki\u015faf bu iki anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n bir-birini tamamlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zaman m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Lakin inki\u015faf yolu h\u0259r zaman r\u0259van olmur. \u018fg\u0259r u\u015faql\u0131q d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 f\u0259rd h\u0259dsiz \u0259rk\u00f6y\u00fcnl\u00fck, laqeyd m\u00fcnasib\u0259t v\u0259 ya fiziki q\u00fcsurlar s\u0259b\u0259bind\u0259n natamaml\u0131q duy\u011fusunun a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131 alt\u0131nda \u0259zil\u0259rs\u0259, bu hiss inki\u015faf vasit\u0259si olmaqdan \u00e7\u0131xaraq natamaml\u0131q kompleksin\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bel\u0259 hallarda insan ir\u0259li getm\u0259k g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 tapa bilmir v\u0259 bu daxili a\u011fr\u0131n\u0131 kompensasiya etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn saxta bir \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259inam formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. Adler bunu \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck kompleksi adland\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131. Bu c\u00fcr f\u0259rdl\u0259r real inki\u015faf v\u0259 nailiyy\u0259tl\u0259r \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259k \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259, ba\u015fqalar\u0131na \u00fcst\u00fcn olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcbut etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r, t\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcrl\u00fc v\u0259 aqressiv davran\u0131\u015flar s\u0259rgil\u0259y\u0259 bilirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
KOU\u00c7\u0130NQ B\u0130Z\u018f N\u018f V\u018fD ED\u0130R?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
M\u00fcasir kou\u00e7inq s\u0259n\u0259tinin \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f n\u00f6qt\u0259si d\u0259 m\u0259hz bu natamaml\u0131q duy\u011fusudur. Kou\u00e7inq insan\u0131n oldu\u011fu, lakin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc natamam hiss etdiyi n\u00f6qt\u0259d\u0259n olmaq ist\u0259diyi daha tamamlanm\u0131\u015f v\u0259 \u015f\u00fcurlu n\u00f6qt\u0259y\u0259 do\u011fru etdiyi s\u0259yah\u0259tdir.<\/em> Kou\u00e7inq bu duy\u011funu aradan qald\u0131rma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131r, onu d\u00fczg\u00fcn oxuma\u011fa v\u0259 faydal\u0131 istiqam\u0259t\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259ltm\u0259y\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k edir. Kou\u00e7 suallar\u0131 vasit\u0259sil\u0259 insan\u0131n \u201cn\u0259yim \u00e7atm\u0131r\u201d hissini \u201cn\u0259yi inki\u015faf etdirm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m\u201d anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7evirir. Bel\u0259likl\u0259, natamaml\u0131q z\u0259iflik kimi deyil, d\u0259yi\u015fikliyin v\u0259 \u015f\u0259xsi inki\u015faf\u0131n ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c siqnal\u0131 kimi q\u0259bul olunur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Adlerin n\u0259z\u0259riyy\u0259si v\u0259 m\u00fcasir kou\u00e7inq yana\u015fmas\u0131 biz\u0259 eyni h\u0259qiq\u0259ti xat\u0131rlad\u0131r: daxilimizd\u0259ki \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131q hissi bizi ya t\u0259n\u0259zz\u00fcl\u0259, ya da t\u0259kam\u00fcl\u0259 apara bil\u0259r. H\u0259lledici olan bu duy\u011funun m\u00f6vcudlu\u011fu deyil, onu nec\u0259 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z v\u0259 hans\u0131 istiqam\u0259t\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259ltdiyimizdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Daxili natamaml\u0131q hissi mane\u0259 deyil, \u0259ksin\u0259, h\u0259l\u0259 k\u0259\u015ff olunmam\u0131\u015f enerjinin \u2013 \u015f\u0259xsi inki\u015faf\u0131n \u0259sas yanaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n siqnal\u0131d\u0131r. Bu hissi sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131q kimi deyil, d\u00fczg\u00fcn oxuyub yarad\u0131c\u0131 g\u00fcc\u0259 \u00e7evirm\u0259k m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Lakin bu, t\u0259kba\u015f\u0131na ke\u00e7ilm\u0259si \u00e7\u0259tin bir daxili labirintdir. Onu m\u0259hsuldar bir t\u0259kam\u00fcl prosesin\u0259 \u00e7evirm\u0259yin \u0259n s\u00fcr\u0259tli yolu t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259li kou\u00e7larla v\u0259 ya psixoloqlarla i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259kdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pe\u015f\u0259kar d\u0259st\u0259k m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259ri sizin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yaln\u0131z yol yolda\u015f\u0131 deyil, daxili d\u00fcnyan\u0131z\u0131n g\u00fczg\u00fcs\u00fcd\u00fcr. Onlar daxili potensial\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rir, natamaml\u0131q duy\u011fusunun arxas\u0131nda gizl\u0259n\u0259n \u201c\u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck c\u0259hdini\u201d \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r v\u0259 enerjinizi konstruktiv h\u0259d\u0259fl\u0259r\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259ltm\u0259y\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k edirl\u0259r. Bu proses yaln\u0131z ke\u00e7mi\u015f yaralar\u0131 sa\u011faltmaqla bitmir; daxili sars\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 f\u00fcrs\u0259t\u0259, qorxular\u0131 c\u0259sar\u0259t\u0259, bo\u015fluqlar\u0131 is\u0259 m\u0259nal\u0131 b\u00fct\u00f6vl\u00fcy\u0259 \u00e7evirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q\u0131sas\u0131, \u00f6z \u201cnatamaml\u0131q m\u0259ktubunuzu\u201d bir pe\u015f\u0259karla oxuyub t\u0259hlil etdiyiniz zaman, i\u00e7ind\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xan mesaj\u0131n sizi hans\u0131 zirv\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259v\u0259t etdiyini ayd\u0131n \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259ksiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
El\u00e7in \u018fzimli<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Tez-tez qap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00f6y\u0259n duy\u011fular bizi incitm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyil, oyatmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u0259lirl\u0259r. \u201cNeqativ\u201d adland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z v\u0259 qa\u00e7ma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z h\u0259r bir hiss \u0259slind\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f m\u0259ktub kimidir; onu y\u0131rt\u0131b atmaq yox, verdiyi ismar\u0131\u015f\u0131 anlamaq d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rimiz\u0259 ayd\u0131nl\u0131q g\u0259tir\u0259r. Bu bax\u0131mdan tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f avstralyal\u0131 psixoterapevt Alfred Adler h\u0259mkar\u0131 Freydd\u0259n f\u0259rqli olaraq, insan \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tini yaln\u0131z ke\u00e7mi\u015f t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259rin v\u0259 bioloji instinktl\u0259rin m\u0259hsulu kimi deyil, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259y\u0259 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[30],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-681","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emosional-zeka"],"views":5,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/681","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=681"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/681\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":682,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/681\/revisions\/682"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=681"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=681"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchinazimli.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=681"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}